Are You Standing in Your Own Way?

Lisa Marie Platske • October 19, 2023

You’re far too smart to be standing in your own way.

 

When people say they’re Stuck what they’re real-l-ly saying is that they’re MORE COMMITTED to DOING SOMETHING that DOESN'T WORK than changing.

 

Read that again.

 

Oh how I understand this because I’ve been there, unwilling to be honest about how I was getting in my own way.

 

And that was what was going on with my client Allie.

 

What she had been doing served her well for years … until it didn't.

 

And then her actions started getting in the way of her health, happiness, and success.


Maybe you understand this, too.

 

Yet, Allie wasn't sure how to make a sustainable change to get what she wanted on her own, so that’s where I came in.

 

My Upside Retreats and leadership coaching programs aren’t for people who want to stay where they are.

 

☆ Or, for people who want lukewarm results.


☆ Or, for people who only want to talk about hard business tactics.


☆ Or, for people who want to pay money ...

 

... and think results magically show up with minimal work.

 

My programming is designed for successful leaders, like Allie, who are willing to put time, energy, and effort into my proven system to create IMPACT and make a positive difference on the planet.

 

Allie wanted more ... and was tired.

 

She came to me wanting to fully tap into her God-given mission, purpose, and calling.

 

And, that REQUIRED heaps of courage and a willingness to GO ALL IN – Mind, Body, and Spirit.


So what did we do?

 

We worked on...

 

~ Getting clear on her mission.


~ Getting clear on her values.


~ Getting clear on her vision.


~ Creating a plan around her 3 commitments.


~ Identifying her non-negotiables.


~ Building an effective action plan in 7 areas of well-being.


~ Outlining her connection plan or 10 – 10 – 10 list.


~ Mapping out her social media strategy.


~ Outlining her 5-5-5 morning routine -- and 5-5-5 evening routine.


~ Teaching her how to position her expertise.


~ Crafting her quarterly plan.


~ Keeping her focus on the 7 Pillars of Leadership.


~ All of this… and more ...

 

Today Allie is thriving.

 

She no longer questions her value or gets caught up in what everyone else around her is doing.

 

I feel sometimes that’s the hardest part of the leadership journey.


She was nominated for Business Woman of the Year in her community and has created lasting impact for generations to come.

 

==>> Want someone who's been there to have your back on the journey?

 

Message me.

 

You’re far too smart to be standing in your own way.

 

ACTION: The Upside Challenge of the week is to do an inventory on your time.

 

Examine your morning and evening routines.

 

Are you taking intentional action based on the kind of leader you’re wanting to be in the world? Or are there places where you’ve gotten comfortable and lax in your schedule?

 

As you reassess, remember you have a divine mission that’s all yours to fulfill. 

 

And, the world needs you and your brilliance.

 

Now more than ever.

By Lisa Marie Platske September 29, 2025
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I've been doing "behind the scenes" coaching for over a decade. Most folks who come to me seek to diagnose the wrong problem. You don't need more information or another book to read. You don't need more motivation or another podcast to fire you up. You don't even need more self-awareness, disguised as 50 hypothetical questions to answer. What most folks need is a little more quiet in their life. They need space to hear their Yes and NO clearly. They need the ability to pause before moving forward like a runaway freight train when making a decision. And that’s part of why I created the Upside Warrior Men’s Retreat. It’s not something flashy. In fact, it's happening quietly right now—intentionally designed to be an unhurried space for men to breathe, reset, and reconnect with the voice inside that knows what truly matters. See, most folks try to cram 25 hours or more into their 24-hour day, trying to win some imaginary productivity award. They've listened to one too many "expert" who tells them that only folks that are unmotivated and unfocused sleep in past 4:30am. If they want to be successful, they better know how to hustle. I bought into this bill of goods early in my career, believing that rest was for people who were lazy. What I've witnessed from folks who live this way is that they'll either: act out, burn out, or get sick. And I've walked that same path myself. When you give yourself space throughout the day, you begin connecting to an inner wisdom that will serve as a guide to making better decisions. And you get clarity on the first step to take ... and then the next. Life becomes more enjoyable and less of a marathon. So, wherever you are today—whether you’re running fast or finally catching your breath—I hope this serves as a gentle reminder: You don’t have to do more to be more. You don’t have to prove your worth through motion. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is pause... to make space and to listen for what’s next. That’s what this season has been about for me and for the men currently in retreat—creating space to hear what really matters. The truest one. And I want that for you too. ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to pause instead of pushing forward. When you feel the urge to jump in, fix, respond, or say yes too quickly, choose stillness. Let presence lead. Pause before replying to a triggering email. Take a breath before offering a solution. Hold silence in a meeting instead of rushing to fill it. In those quiet moments, you may find that clarity, wisdom, and strength speak loudest when you do less, not more.
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