What If You Believed The Best?
You can believe the best or worst about people.
It’s less lonely to believe the best in them, yet that's really hard to do, especially when you've been burned over and over.
When I think about leadership as a whole, this is one of the hardest elements to master because people are human.
~ They're going to get stuff wrong.
~ They're going to say things you don't like.
~ They're going to hurt your feelings, even if you don't want to admit it.
At some point, most folks give up trying or at least caring.
It's often easier to numb or ignore than to deal with a disappointment.
Yet numbing or ignoring doesn't change the body's reaction internally to the situation.
To get to a place where you are able to believe the best in folks takes work.
There is no leadership pill or shortcut.
At least not one that I've ever found.
One of the biggest flexes is being able to hold space for someone when they've wronged you.
I remember years ago reading an article about Richard Branson, and one of his employees who had stolen from him.
Branson told the manager to speak to him—and give him a second chance.
A second chance?!?
Are you kidding me?!?
That's a break in integrity and grounds for removal in any industry.
Reading this had me wonder what Branson knew about leadership that at the time I didn't.
To take it a step further, my curiosity increased and I wondered what would happen if I did something like this in my own life.
It felt awkward to try this idea on as I had long-rooted beliefs that certain behaviors were vehemently wrong—and should be punished.
Was it possible that leadership required unconditional love?
Now, this didn't mean being a doormat and letting someone walk all over you.
Anyone who knows me understands that's never gonna happen.
Yet this new perspective, this new lens, had me curious about what would happen if I led from that place.
Over the years, I can say it hasn't been the easiest thing to do—and it's been the most rewarding.
I still have folks come back to me who wronged me telling me how much they respect the way I handled the situation.
My greatest desire for folks is that they lead their lives in a way that honors the core of their being—their divine mission and purpose.
And it's really hard to do that when you're steeped in judgment, blame, or shame-inducing behaviors.
Love is the answer, regardless of the question.
Because you can choose to believe the worst in people.
Or you can choose to see the best in people.
It's always your choice.
ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to choose one person who has disappointed or frustrated you.
Take one step from your highest self that keeps your heart open.
Speak with calm.
Acknowledge something they did right.
And release the story you’ve been holding.
Lead from love today.










