The Unexpected Key to Leading Wel
For years, Valentine’s Day has been my 2nd favorite holiday after Thanksgiving.
Every year, I notice people talking about love and being loving, equating it to what they got from their partner.
One year, I wrote a post where I joked around about asking Jim for toilets — which was true.
And some folks were horrified.
Valentine's Day hasn't been one of my favorite holidays for 4 decades because of the gifts I've received, although I have gotten some spectacular ones.
Rather, Valentine's Day offers folks a reminder to see through the lens of love, no matter where they're at or what they're experiencing.
LOVE is the vibration I want to operate on 365 days throughout the year.
It’s how I want to be REMEMBERED.
In a few days, Jim and I will celebrate 21 years of marriage.
Yes, 21 years.
That kind of time gives you a deeper understanding of what love really is.
And it’s not always grand or visible.
Being loving and kind isn’t hard to do.
And it's not easy, either.
It does require intentional choice in every circumstance and situation.
Once you set your mind that’s who you want to be, you’ll see opportunities to be loving and kind all day long.
Researchers have discovered that you also get what’s called the ‘helper’s high’ when you operate this way…
…because acts of altruism trigger the same endorphins as a ‘runner’s high.'
What does this look like?
Smile. At people you’ve never met.
Hold the door open for a stranger.
Give BIG hugs to the people you care about most.
Say “please” – and say “thank you”. You’d be surprised at how few people actually do.
Surprise a friend with a phone call or a gift of appreciation … for no reason other than they were on your mind.
Give back and volunteer your time at a colleague’s event, local animal shelter, or soup kitchen. (Yes, they still have those.)
Pay for someone’s cup of coffee at the drive-thru or the person standing behind you in line at Starbucks. When I lived in New Jersey, I used to pay for people’s tolls before EZPass came along and took away the fun of it.
Go through your closet and donate the clothing you still love, yet haven’t worn in a long time.
Look for opportunities to pay someone a compliment – and then do it. You just may make their day.
Text or call a loved one just to say, “I’m thinking about you…”
Bring your neighbors flowers.
Loving-kindness is just a way of being.
You don’t need a special day or any holiday for LOVE to show up.
And the best leaders get this.
So if you want to be the kind of leader who leaves a legacy...
Start there.
Lead with love.
Even when no one’s watching.
ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to practice one unseen act of loving-kindness.
Choose one person in your world — a colleague, neighbor, team member, or friend — and do something kind without telling them it was you.
It can be a handwritten note, a small gift, a thoughtful gesture, or an act of service.
Then notice how it shifts you — because powerful leadership begins in the places no one else sees.










