What I Thought I Knew About Drug Cartels, Conflict, & Coffee
Most of my overseas travels have been in and around South America because I speak enough Spanish to get by and have a fond appreciation for the various cultures, different foods, and adventures that come from traveling in foreign lands.
Last week, Jim and I traveled to Bogota, Colombia – for fun.
I can’t count the number of people who asked me “Why Colombia?” or “Why Bogota?” but I do know that whenever asked me where I was going it did evoke that question almost every time. Being a former law enforcement officer, I get it.
When I worked in the United States Customs Service, the three (3) most popular images of Colombia were drug cartels, conflict and coffee -none of which work for me since I don’t do drugs or conflict and don’t drink coffee. And, not that long ago the only English-speaking people who traveled to Colombia were from the United States military.
Colombia earned a reputation, much like Miami in the United States, that doesn’t always conjure up the prettiest (or safest) images for travel. That Colombia – one run by drug lords from the infamous Escobar legacy — has vanished, replaced by an energized capital filled with resilient people. In my last Upside Thinker article/blog posting, I wrote about my Uncle Johnny and the importance of changing your perspective when looking at something that seems like a burden.
This week, it’s also about changing your perspective….looking at something with fresh eyes while understanding the power of your thinking. In the eleven (11) years that I’ve had my business, I have never taken a trip where I have fully decompressed.
Bogota - Catherdral de Sal - 2
Because I love what I do and am honored to work with amazing clients, I typically commit to work one (1) hour in the morning after I complete a hard workout in the gym and have a yummy breakfast.
Not this trip.
After the first day, I knew that Bogota was a special place and didn’t want to miss one moment of my time there so I didn’t take my phone with me or even turn it on!
The city that I once feared held the most beautiful people I’ve ever met.
But, was it Bogota or was it me?
Dr. Masaru Emoto, a researcher and alternative healer from Japan who I wrote about in my first book Designing Your Destiny, created water molecule experiments that were featured in one of my favorite films “What The Bleep Do We Know?”. Because his discoveries demonstrated how human thoughts and intentions can alter physical reality via the molecular structure of water – and humans are comprised of about 65% water, your thoughts and intentions affect what happen to you.
He also tried this with rice, placing a serving size in two different containers. On one container, he wrote “thank you” on another “you fool” and told school kids to speak the words on each label when the passed by the jar. After doing this for 30 days, the rice in the container with “thank you” was relatively unchanged while the one with “you fool” was moldy and rotten. (And, why I’m only willing to live Upside.)
I believe my experience was both Bogota and me.
Being in the city re-taught me many lessons and I was listening with my heart wide open.
• Lesson #1: Expect greatness out of people and they will rise to the occasion. (I expected the people to be gracious and kind and what I received exceeded my expectations. After walking for miles all over the city – and in some areas the tour books and friends said not to venture into –, I encountered people who loved Colombia and embraced those who came to visit. And, I felt safer than I’ve ever felt outside the United States – even in the little yellow taxis.)
• Lesson #2: The world is made for those who stand out and not those who fit in. (I typically try to “blend” when I’m traveling. This time, I just let go of my issues with being an “American” traveling abroad and was myself. And, what happened was magical. I fell in love with the city – and she fell in love with me. Even my husband commented on how while we didn’t blend, we belonged. Wow.)
• Lesson #3: Everyone wants to be valued, loved, and appreciated. (I say this often and no place was it truer than here. When speaking to the hotel staff, the taxi drivers, the vendors in the market, the servers at the restaurant, and even the people panhandling on the street, I showed up as love. What occurred brings tears to my eyes as I write this. When you show up as love, you cannot help but to be loved on in BIG ways in return.)
Several years ago, the thought of traveling to Bogota felt scary and was certainly out of my comfort zone. Today, I see it as a place that feels like ‘home’ – welcoming and filled with the most wonderful people in the world.
ACTION ITEM: The Upside Challenge of the week is think about something in your life that feels scary and pushes you out of your comfort zone. How can you shift your perspective to find the treasure hidden within? And, what stereotype(s) are you ready to let go of?
Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely. Lead Upside.
P.S - . And, many thanks to my dear friends Gladys Mezrahi and Adriana Spitzer, native Colombians, who gave me loving advice and told me to just have fun!
